“He will not be loved by his wife if he wants to be called ‘lord’, for love must die when lovers want lordship. Love cannot endure or live if it is not free and active in the heart.”
Does a flower thrive without water or sunlight? The seeds of love may be thrown about carelessly so that they fail to grow in the proper place. One needs good soil, sunlight and water to make a flower grow. It is just that way with love, that requires the proper ingredients of nature to flourish.
Have you ever had a thought but it didn’t turn out the way you wanted it to? Or maybe something happened to you and when you told people about it the meaning changed and was different? The thought, untouched by the attacks of the outside world, has a peculiar pureness to it. Within the mind it is safe and completely liberated by way of expression. It is in delivering that thought to the outside world that it becomes distorted, flawed and ambiguous. The reason that is it has to fight and contend with many oppositional forces that are opposed to it. The world is far from a blank canvas. If I was Adam and you were Eve, it would be easy to make our thoughts whistle in the wind with the pureness of love, for who would stop us other than God? A thought, pure and free, is disclosed and made apparent to the outside world. It is then met with forceful opposition from a billion other thoughts in the deep sea that is the world.
People who are free thinking have a pure love contained within them, and this freedom is defended by the man or woman of noble heart. When we try to institute or govern pure love, it becomes bound in servitude and no longer pure or love. Any time it is constrained and subjected by others it becomes a prisoner. The pure thought lost all freedom by becoming brutalized and assailed by the opposition of the outside world.
Imagine your a kid, and you really want a red bicycle. It is good that you get one too, because you have to walk four miles to school everyday. Your parents can afford the bike and it isn’t unreasonable to ask. Yet, when you ask for the red bicycle and list the reasons why it makes sense, you are given a resounding no. What happened? Wasn’t this a perfectly reasonable request?
What has been drawn up in the world is the aggregation of these failed attempts to materialize the love in our hearts, which is the dispensation of thoughts that are pure and free. To not get what the heart wants is far from desirous, and often when we fail it is a hard thing to take in. We then try to neglect our inner thoughts because of fear, doubt or resistance. We become prisoners first by way of our own neglect and then through being subjected and oppressed by others. Yet, didn’t we have a choice to be free? If we lose the pureness of our hearts to the outside world, we become slaves to others. The loss of personal sovereignty is a death that precedes the physical death. To endure servitude by imprisonment to a master other than your own self makes life not worth living. So, when the kid doesn’t get the red bike, what does he do? This is a really important question and I cannot answer it. Only the boy can answer that question in his own heart, and I won’t try to tell him what to do because it is right that he come to that conclusion on his own, by way of the heart.
The call of the heart must be followed if one is to find his true purpose and meaning. Ok, I get it: do what your heart tells you. But what does this really mean? There are two types of will. The first type of will is completely natural. For example, it is natural to want to play or have rest after working, to want to have children, to eat, to sleep, to drink water, to breathe, to want exercise or rest. Suffice it to say that all the things animals do are natural and good. The list goes on but I will stop here so as not to fatigue myself with discovering new examples of the natural will; suffice it to say that these things are natural and good. The second kind of will is unnatural and is in response to fear and the opposition of the world. When a person, place or thing tries to stop you from attaining what the heart needs by way of natural desire there is an unnatural response. Sometimes, it is my very own self that is my biggest enemy. My response, by way of fear, includes doing things to excess or depriving myself or acting against custom. For example, it is natural to eat but not too much. It is natural to make love, but not out of place. It is natural to sleep but not too much. And the list goes on and on. This unnatural will propels me from my on liberated heart and seeks to imprison me to the will of others and drive me further from my own heart. When my natural needs are denied, I begin to go to extremes to reassert myself and often become my own worst enemy. Like a dog chasing after his own tail, I attempt to get back what has been lost, because I failed to get what my heart needed. Yet, through my insanity, I respond to not getting what I need by acting against my needs! I somehow think that doing what is against my cause will give me relief and liberation. Yet, I’m repeatedly frustrated when I do not get the desired result. Driven, as if by a tempest, further from home I begin to grieve and become bitter. Isn’t it completely insane to act against the heart and expect emancipation? Was I not myself the captain that steered the ship astray, or was it that stormy sea, the enemy of the wanderer, that gave me this death blow?
Furthermore, when I try to control and demand lordship I am put further and further from what I desire. When I surrender and give up my need to control and be lord over the universe- which wasn’t working too well- I suddenly get exactly what I want. Except now I don’t care a fig if I have the whole world or not, because I am happy and content with enough. It is when I demand lordship that I give up my claim. By asking for only what I need I gain far more than that but when I ask for more than I need I receive far less than what is necessary. The reason? The heart asks for very little, and yet it receives abundantly more than what it needs when it is well heard.
Consider a good father who gives a gift to his son. The son goes out to work on the father’s farm. He has performed all the tasks splendidly and with so much vigor that he still has half the day to relax. When he returns he asks for nothing in return because he considers it his duty to have done what he did. Wouldn’t it by right for the father, who has seen his son act so nobly, to reward him better than the son who did less than what was asked of him or did not do anything at all? Yet often, by way of flattery and baseness, the good doers of deeds are given less than their lot because they are too noble to ask for anything in return. They suffer their enemies too willingly and do not speak out.
It is truly the death of chivalry and courtesy on earth when accountants and merchants, who count their gains by the piles of gold in their caves, govern in place of people of noble heart, good deeds and virtue. And what has become of charity? Little is it found when the rich seek only their own gain. Those who seek only their own gain, without a care for honor, should expect loss and shame while those who seek the gain of their companions often find themselves heavily supplied with both wealth and honor. Wouldn’t it be reasonable to give the man money who puts it to good use? And if those who covet are content with great wealth than they must also be content without companionship and bear this heavy yoke unless they call upon lady generosity to liberate them, for the man with great wealth is truly a slave bound in servitude to Mammon.